“Love Your Stepchildren As Your Own”

by childless stepparent

Many stepparents have heard this advice (often from people who are not stepparents): “You should love your stepchildren as your own.”

My response? That is IMPOSSIBLE.

This is not to say that stepparents can’t love their stepchildren with full hearts. They can. I do.

But I do not love my husband’s daughter as if she were my own child. How in the world could I? Why would I try to? Why not just let it be what it is?

The love we have is a different love. Not better, not worse, just different.

Manifesto #6 | I will be kind to my stepchild. I will support my husband in his role as her dad. I will contribute – on my own terms.